I may be behind the times, because I just now saw this YouTube video of Charles Barkley. I don’t know if it stirred up any controversy when it was first out, but it sure stirred me up. All morning I have been ranting around the house. But hey, I have a blog and what better place to rant.
Charles says, "I am not a role model. I am not paid to be a role model…Parents should be role models…. Just because I can dunk a basketball does not mean I should raise your kids."
It burns me up that people want all the fame, glory, and wealth, but no responsibilities as a good role model that often accompanies those things.
I am not a role model. I am not paid to be a role model. Parents should be role models:
A parent can be a role model, but a role model is not necessarily a parent. Parents and role models are two different things, and they have different responsibilities. Here is Wiki’s definition of role model: The term role model first appeared in Robert K. Merton's socialization research of medical students. Merton hypothesized that individuals compare themselves with "reference groups" of people who occupy the social role to which the individual aspires. The term has passed into general use to mean any "person who serves as an example, whose behavior is emulated by others".
By this definition, Charles you are a role model. As a basketball player, your behavior on the court and off is emulated by others. Charles, you say you are not paid to be a role model. Maybe you should give up your TV appearances, your endorsements of products, and all the other things that go with being a famous basketball player – things that you does get paid for besides playing basketball. Face it Charles, when you are in the limelight, you are a role model and you do get paid for it. There are lots of good basketball players out there who do not get the big endorsements, because they are not good role models.
Parents can be and often are role models, and they are so much more. Their responsibilities are endless. There is no need for me to go into all that a parent does. Usually a child only has one set of parents, but he/she may have several role models. Face it, Charles. When a kid looks at a role model, he is not only looking at how well a person does a job, but also how that person conducts him/herself.
Charles, no one is asking you to raise their kids. You are in no way a parent to the kids out there watching you, but you are a role model. If you choose to pump your body full of illegal drugs or steroids or whatever, there will be kids watching and emulating you. These same kids may have great parents telling them not to do drugs and such, they may even be telling their kids not to emulate you at all, but it is you in the limelight getting paid the big bucks. You can be a good role model or a bad one, but what you choose to do on the court and off will affect others.
Charles you are a great basketball player, and I may come to watch your team play someday. Then again, I may not, if you are going to be an ass. I may boycott Nike for making such a stupid video.